People these days protest everything. Die hard activists do things like camp out and picket for things they don't/do believe in, or go on a food strike like that chick from Orange is the New Black. Many "activists" -- well, we'll call them half-ass activists -- these days have gotten lazy though, they just throw up a novel length social media status, wait for it to go viral, and call it a day.
I am not an activist. If there is one thing in this world that terrifies me, it's confrontation. I've never sent anything back at a restaurant, and if Starbucks gives me the wrong drink I don't say a peep and drink it anyway.
The worst people are the people who go looking to start a fight with someone who is completely unarmed. You want to pick a fight with a clerk at Target over a policy they had absolutely nothing to do with?! That person doesn't have enough shit in their life going on already, so you're going Target to Target, asking employees about their bathroom policies.... then yelling at them over a decision that they had absolutely zero say in. If you want to fight for what you believe in, then I say pick that fight on someone a little higher up.
Veenie and I have a lot in common when it comes to confrontation. If someone were to yell at either of us, we would both put our tail between our legs and run and hide under the nearest table until that person leaves or forgets what they were so mad about. I don't think in the history of my 29 years on this planet, I've ever stood up for myself. I'd rather everyone just hug and kiss and smile and snuggle and love each other until the end of time.... Veenie agrees.
I'm never mean to someone to their face, I just bottle it up deep down inside.... you know, the healthy way. I'm a people pleaser, always have been and probably always will be. If someone disagrees with me on a topic, I'm going to let it go.
Now, don't get me wrong here, I'm not proud of this. This is not a good trait of mine. It is how I am though, and probably how I'll always be.
There is one quote/motto that has always hit home for me though. I think this is how I live my life. You may disagree and as I've already stated, ok no problem, I'm not going to fight you on it.
I believe in puppies and I believe in love. I believe in eating two lunches on days when you're really hungry and I believe that calling mom and crying for an hour will help what ails you.
I believe that my non-confrontational approach to life may not be the most effective at changing the world, but it works for me.
Ok, that was a random post.
BRB gotta go buy Presale Drake + Future tickets.
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ReplyDeleteLoved this. I can stick up for myself and will send a drink back at Starbucks, but I'm not one to pick a fight or bash people because they feel a different way than I do. I'm with you on the target thing, if you're going to pick on people and be a bully, at least bully the influencers!
ReplyDeleteI saw several people on Facebook sharing status updates from people who did just that, picked a fight with a cashier. That is just so wrong to me!!
DeleteYes! Calling either my Mom or my Lynn-Mom always helps me, and if they can't help me, they can usually make me laugh which really is helping in a way anyways!
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ReplyDeleteLove this!
ReplyDeleteOh girl. All the yes.
ReplyDeleteI just want to pet all of the dogs and world peace... I don't think that's too much to ask!! :P
DeleteTHIS! YES! I can't agree more! I believe in chocolate and flowers and the power of laughter to heal.
ReplyDeletePuppies and Love are good things to believe it! Go puppies!!
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I am totally with you on this. I mean, I don't personally have problems with confrontation when it's warranted, but I can't stand when people are jerks just because they can be.
ReplyDeleteI love that quote! I want to print it out and hang it in my classroom for my impressionable young students to see (they LOVE confrontation)! The world we be such a better place if there was a little more love.
ReplyDeleteNow that's a fantastic idea!!
DeleteI am the same way as you. Confrontation, no thank you! Down to the Starbucks thing; I'll just be sad that they gave me the wrong drink and someone will be like, "Take it back" and then I just stop talking so they don't make me haha. I worked as a cashier at Michael's for about two seconds, and some lady berated me about the lack of stickers made in the USA. I was like, "By all means complain about this to the still-in-college-part-time-cashier who's worked here for two weeks!"
ReplyDeleteI love this post and I LOVE YOU!
ReplyDeleteYES! I love this. Be who you are, and the rest will follow. :)
ReplyDeleteOh man, I hate confrontation too! I almost always will try and find the good in a situation rather than complain about it (and that sometimes includes people). Sometimes, it works, sometime it doesn't, but I feel a lot less stressed out doing it that way then complaining about it!
ReplyDeleteCouldn't agree more... you actually summed that up better than I did!! I feel way less stressed taking that approach!!
DeleteI am confrontational, as you know that. And i believe we can be both, and still be best friends :). Love you!
ReplyDeleteVery nice. I live in the area known as "Protest USA" or the San Francisco Bay Area, people here will protest over anything. I agree with you but others love getting their faces on TV while protesting.
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Is that what it's all about these days? 15 minutes of fame?
DeleteLove that quote. Definitely something that most of America could use right now :)
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing Sarah! While I have sent a thing or two back and be confrontational in the appropriate situation, I'm right there with you, promote what you love and quit bashing everything else! Spread love :)
ReplyDeletePeople really are shitty these days. (Pardon my french). I don't understand why every picture, every post, every idea has to be scrutinized to the point that you invent somethung that is not even there. It's so frustrating. Keep spreading all the love girl!
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