I have talked about grief and heartbreak before on this blog, but as I was driving my mom to the airport this morning I found myself questioning the way people handle loss. Many of you have heard of Kidd Kraddick and are aware of his passing. Needless to say I was shocked to turn the radio on this morning and hear the Kidd crew doing a live show. My heart was breaking for them as I heard each member grieve, cry and get choked up over the air while telling their stories and memories of Kidd.
I turned to my mom and said how horrible I thought it was that they went on as usual with the show.
I am a crier. I cry at happy, I cry at sad, heck I even got a little teary eyed when the lady in front of me paid for my Starbucks last week.... that was so dang thoughtful! Not everyone cries like I do, everyone has a different way of dealing with their emotions.
I remember when a fellow classmate lost his dad when we were in high school. He ended up coming back to class within days of his fathers passing. I thought to myself, gosh there is no way I would be able to go back to school that soon, I would be devastated.
But when I lost my dad and uncle, I did whatever I could to regain a sense of normalcy in my life. I went back to college, I went back to work, I did whatever I could to find my routine again to keep me from losing it.
We all do what we have to do to make it through hard times. It wasn't right for me to question how others handle grief and loss. You do what you have to do to get by, move on and continue to live your life.
I was very lucky to have spent a wonderful weekend with my mom, who used her airline miles to fly in last minute from Virginia on a whim! I am an only child, so she is all the immediate family I have. I am truly blessed to have her in my life. I am her rock during hard times, and she is mine. We have a great friendship.
We spent the weekend exploring Dallas, had dinner in Reunion Tower above downtown Dallas, we took the pups to the dog park and she even got to see my new apartment! Oh and we may have had a little casino action over the weekend. I only lost about 40 bucks, could have been worse (could have been better) after a day spent on the slots!
Oh, and then the worst thing happened. I found out she played this....
Sigh, what am I going to do with her?
Have a great week everyone, and don't forget to hug your loved ones extra tight tonight!
Your mom is adorbs. And you had me getting a wee baby lump in my throat at the start of this post!
ReplyDeleteAw, I heart this post. I am not good with loss.
ReplyDeleteI'm a big crier too and find it really frustrating. When I lost my mom, someone asked me how I didn't end up taking my own life. I have to admit, I thought that was the rudest response to that person learning of my loss. Crying is just our way of dealing with things. It's great that you and your mom are close and you got to spend time with her. :) Sorry for your own loss.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your loss. I hope you have loved ones to comfort you.
DeleteI'm the girl who cries because someone dropped their groceries and I want to help - so I'm right there with you. So happy you got to spend so much time with your mom, it always hits the spot. Oh and candy crush? My mom plays it too.. sigh.
ReplyDeleteIt was really hard to listen this morning. They are so brave to go on-air while still grieving. But they've always been real and I think that's why the fans love their show. Thanks for sharing this post :)
ReplyDeleteI understand the emotion of "how can they do that?" When my Dad passed away I was a wreck. (Still am a lot of days) I was out of work for a week and when I came back I sat at my desk and cried the entire day. My little sister went to school for half a day the day he passed. I was shocked and angry at first, then I realized that was what she felt she had to do.
ReplyDeleteas a recovering addict of candy crush i can sympathize with your momma and what she's currently going through. let her know i'm here to talk should she need to.
ReplyDeletecandy crush is taking over the damn world!!! glad you had a nice visit with your mom!
ReplyDeleteI am totally with you, Sarah! It's a little different, but when our burned down {I was 10} my little sister didn't cry {in front of us at least} EVER. I bawled just thinking about it and it still works me up sometimes because we lost so much of our childhood. Thanks for the reminder that we all grieve differently...I need to appreciate other people's differences more for sure!
ReplyDeleteYou two have the same smile and I'm a crier too, it happens. Side note: what the hell is in your class up there? a straw? a mini tree? a party blower?
ReplyDeleteI probably shouldn't lead in with this BUT... when I saw the title of your post my first thought was 'ohh, I hope he's good looking!' HA!! So classy I am!;)
ReplyDeleteCompletely agree with people needing to grieve differently. I was in high school when I lost my brother and I was back at school quickly... I remember the guidance counselor saying to me "I can't believe you're not upset enough to stay home"... umm, I was wayy beyond upset but I needed some normal in my life.
Glad you got some good mom time in... great pics! And she's awesome for playing Candy Crush! :)
You look just like your mother.....beautiful. HUGS today just for you my friend.
ReplyDeleteI am a crier too. At everything. I am worse when I am hormonal, which does NOT bode well for a day I decide I want to be pregnant. Glad you had a great weekend with your mama! :)
ReplyDeleteI looks like you had a great weekend with your Mom! I think thats the hardest part of relocating is being far away from family but it makes the time spent with them extra special. I am a crier too, I cry every time I have to say goodbye to my family. I think crying just shows that you are a great and caring person who doesn't take things for granted :)
ReplyDeleteCandy Crush is everywhere..no one can escape it. haha. So glad you had nice girls weekend with your Mamma..sometimes, that's all that is needed ;)
ReplyDeletexoxoxo!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on loss. I lost my father too and am an only child too. I didn't think I'd be able to go back to work as quickly as I did either. We're all stronger than we think sometimes.
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ahh you guys look so much alike! glad you got to spend the weekend together :) and if it makes you feel better, i am getting to be a big crier myself.
ReplyDeleteI am such a crier too and reading the first half of this post had my tearin up. So glad you got to enjoy a weekend with your mom! Family is everything--it's nice to know you can always have your mom to root you on, encourage you, and be your rock. xox
ReplyDeleteaw great post, i need to hug my mom soon!
ReplyDeleteMy parents are coming to visit this weekend and now I'm even more excited just seeing how much fun you and your mom had!
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you got some time with your mom! Mine plays Farmville so I think I would take Candy Crush over imaginary crops...
ReplyDeleteOh my god you look just like her! And girl I am such a sap to the point I get made fun of. I cried last night watching friends.
ReplyDeleteLove your thoughts on Kidd and grieving. It really is true that you never know how you are going to react until you're in that boat.
ReplyDeleteWhat a fun weekend with your Mom! I'm super close with my Mom too :)
aww So glad you mom was able to come visit! I know I always get excited when my mom plans a trip!
ReplyDeleteAwww I'm an only too and I hung out with my mommy while Boomer was gone this weekend. She's my bestie although if that woman starts playing candy crush I'll beat her. (That would involve her actually embracing technology though...so chances are slim to none.)
ReplyDeleteYou look so much like your mom:) Pretty, pretty! I'm a crier too!
ReplyDeleteWhat a fun weekend - family time comes at the perfect moment.
ReplyDeleteI love this SO much. I am totally up there with you in the grief section and suffering such a tramatic loss. We all deal with thing differently, but the ultimate thing our grief leads us back to is those who we need to lean on the most. Though we may not always see it, our moms, grandmas, best friends are the BEST remedy to a broken heart!
ReplyDeletesoo happy you got to spend time with your mom!
I listened to the Kidd Kraddick show this morning. I should have known better than to put my makeup on before that. Had to do some damage control when by the time I got to work.
ReplyDeleteI love you very much and miss you already! Perfect weekend.
ReplyDeleteHow sweet is this post - and even more sweet your mama posted above! :) Glad you had a good weekend!
ReplyDeleteGreat post! And I love the she's playing Candy Crush.
ReplyDeleteI was so shocked when I heard the news. That is my go to morning show every morning. So incredibly sad... and was so shocked when they went on with the show.
ReplyDeleteSo sweet that your mom went to see you last minute. I have one brother and my my mom and dad, so I know all about small immediate families. It's nice having that support.
Also adding, I love my chucks. :)
I am totally a crier too! But I'm like the type of crier that pretends not to be a crier... and then panics when I think I've lost the ability to cry. It's a long story. I'm glad you enjoyed your weekend :)
ReplyDeleteMichelle @ Mishfish13
I am the worlds worst crier... I mean, I cried the other night watching Due Date. It is so awesome to have such a great relationship with your mom, I consider myself lucky to have strong friendship with my mom, because it wasn't always that way, and I know so many people don't get to have that kind of friendship.
ReplyDeleteWow! You look sooo much like your mom. I always think it is really cool when kids look so much like their parents... Two very beautiful ladies right there!
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Everyone deals with losses in different ways, personally, I am a lone crier and tend to put on a brave face in front of others and get on with life.
ReplyDelete1) Love that dress
ReplyDelete2) awesome that you and your mom are so close
3) I'm in the dead dad club and I totally feel you, trying to cling on to any sort of normalcy after a death or traumatic event is kind of how I cope as well. (PS - I cry all the time too. Like, all the time. Commercials. Game TV Shows, you name it.)
Looks like you had a great weekend!
XO, www.dysfunctionaleverafter.com
Thanks for this post - it's always great to get a reminder to not take our loved ones for granted; each moment is precious!
ReplyDeleteI'm a crier, too. I never was until I got to college I literally NEVER used to and now it's like once a week minimum. It's weird though, when someone close to me dies it's almost like I lose my ability to cry and I'm the only one who isn't.
ReplyDeleteAwww your mumma looks super happy!!
ReplyDeleteMom/daughter cuteness. I can't take it. My heart is on overload!
ReplyDeleteI'm such a crier too! This post made me cry! You and your mother are so adorable!
ReplyDeleteOh gosh, I'm a crier too!! I'm glad you had a good weekend with your mom & the pups <3
ReplyDeleteI love how close you and your momma are. And let's not even get into Kidd Kraddick. Heart is broken.
ReplyDeleteI know what you mean about crying! I am like that too! Anything heartfelt or meaningful even if not directed at me can get my tear ducts ready to burst. Glad you got to have a nice weekend with your mom.
ReplyDeletelooks like such a fun weekend with your mama! still loving your hair too!
ReplyDelete& yes, i think people deal with grief in different ways and i bet for the people on his show it was therapeutic for them to talk about him and share memories. i went to work the day after my dad died and one of my coworkers actually laughed at me bc he thought i was making it up bc he couldnt understand why i would come in to work, but i just wanted to be able to take my mind off of it as much as possible.
wow this post hit home for me today. After my pup passing last week, I have really had to remind myself we all grieve differently. I was such an ass and got mad at my husband bc he was not "acting upset enough" a few days after :'(
ReplyDeletewow this post hit home for me today. After my pup passing last week, I have really had to remind myself we all grieve differently. I was such an ass and got mad at my husband bc he was not "acting upset enough" a few days after :'(
ReplyDeleteOld waterworks here got pretty emotional over this! We lost my husband's dad in January....the extra call home and I love you's are so important and mean the world to me now! Aside from that, looks like a perfect weekend with your mom!
ReplyDeleteOh man, I'm a huge crier, but not so much at things in my own life. But movies, TV, even commercials? I'll cry at the drop of a hat - sweet, sad, happy all get me in tears. I'm trying very hard to avoid candy crush, but everyone is telling me to try it. It's like crack - peer pressure and all!
ReplyDeleteI am a crier too.................
ReplyDeleteMoms are awesome. Glad you got to spend the weekend with yours!
ReplyDeleteHaha- have you ever seen the movie "Guilt Trip" with Barbara Streisand and Seth Rogan? He goes on a road trip with his mom and she drives him nuts.. aaaand she plays the same game as your mom. Too cute.
ReplyDeleteI think it's really nice that your mom and you have such a tight bond and a good relationship. I love my mom to pieces but she does drive me batty. (sigh)
You are 100% right about grief. Everyone deals with it completely different. You don't have to understand it- just support the way that person deals.
Aw, moms are the best! When I just read the title I was going to comment about how every girl needs a weekend on top of Big D, but then you had me teary-eyed. Well played, Sarah.
ReplyDeleteYou're soo lucky to have such a fabulous mom! Even if she plays candy crush, haha.
ReplyDeleteYou look so much like your mom! I'm a crier as well, and it got worse after losing my dad. Any kind of bereavement or loss has me bawling like a baby now. I ended up taking 6 weeks off work when my dad died - I tried going back after 2 weeks but my boss took one look at me and knew I'd cried the whole way from home, and sent me away again (in a nice way!) I'm glad you and your mom have each other!
ReplyDeleteYour mom is adorable!! Glad you guys had a good weekend. Grief is... damn difficult. When I lost my sister last year I took the reins in making the arrangements. I didn't want my parents to have to do it. Plus, for me, it kept me occupied. Later in the week I broke. Going back to work was weird. It just didn't feel right.
ReplyDeleteLove your mom. My momsies is obsessed with candy crush, they could best besties. :) Great post
ReplyDeletewhat a cute mom!
ReplyDeleteOh my heck...I love your mom! We could be best friends! Such a beautiful post. It is so great to see how everyone handles situations!
ReplyDeleteHow are people soo addicted to candy crush?! Everyone from my mother in law to my little sister play! It's insane!
ReplyDeleteI love seeing other people who have such good relationships with their family. It's nice that you got to have a weekend full of good times and memories with your mom. I cherish those moments.
ReplyDeleteComing back from spending a week with my family, I feel sad that I'm not near them - but I think only seeing them twice a year makes me appreciate them more than I ever did when I lived at home. I feel your pain, girl.
Also, damn that candy crush. Everyone in my life plays it. EVERYONE.